If you know me, you know I have some pretty strong feelings on certain aspects of life. One of them is the fact that normally my life is so rich, so blessed and so happy, that once something hard hits, I won’t dare complain. Hard times are not so friendly reminders to appreciate the good times. Quite often I joke with my cousin that after the hard times we will look back and laugh! Here’s a classic example – there was a time when she so graciously took me to San Francisco Museum of Modern Art to see a painting by my favorite artist (Frida Kalho) and I took so long (I was ecstatic) her car was towed. We walked for blocks and blocks (in some not so safe neighborhoods) to retrieve the car. Then on our way home the car broke down. You better believe we still laugh about this even though we were none too happy!
My husband was hurt this weekend. I’d rather not go into details but it ended up with a trip to the emergency room. We waited for hours only to be given some medication which made him violently ill. It is very difficult to see the person you love in intense, debilitating pain. Luckily this is something that we can ease off with regimented self care. I am writing now because he has finally fallen asleep. I am so happy he is able to rest.
I’m trying to coach him through this hard time with positivity and reality – this will pass and you will be better once again. We all have to focus on what is ahead and not the present moment. That, I think, is one of the biggest challenges in life. It is probably the reason some people quit, fail, get sick and die…
Keep your eyes on the prize everyone. Look ahead. Stay focused. Keep it real. You can do it.