Is social media the appropriate way to stand up for what you believe in and to help others? I’m still unsure. It’s really easy to write a hashtag and allow the media to share your story for you; to be part of a long line of strangers attached to a particular hashtag. Just like it’s easy for our president to Tweet whatever he wants while the media has a field day covering it.
The recent news of Harvey Weinstein and his slew of harassment allegations is getting some serious media attention and I’m pretty sick of it. Is what he did any different from any other pig in any other industry? Nah. This guy just happened to get more of the spotlight. I am sick of pig-headed men and the fact that apparently it’s still a man’s world. Some men are programmed to do whatever their urges dictate them to. Yet woman are programmed to look and act a certain way to please everyone. Both are gross.
I have certainly been the target of nasty harassment of a slightly different kind. Once I stopped wearing a wig, some people (mostly men) imposed their thoughts on me, repeatedly:
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
“Can’t you just pick one – boy or girl?”
“Do you sit down or stand up when you pee?”
“Are you gay?”
“Can’t you wear a wig and look more like a girl?”
I think it’s great that victims are writing #metoo because it shows in mass quantity just how many women it’s happened to. I’m not going to write #metoo because I don’t want to. I don’t think it will help other women. But I defy these monsters by walking out of the house, being me, looking the way I do and getting on with my day. If someone were to ask me today if I sit or stand when I pee, I wouldn’t feel bad or fight back. I would ignore him. I have the freedom to be me and do what I want and that’s all I need. I don’t need to explain myself to anyone. By doing that I am defying every misconception, stereotype and ideal that man (or any other) believes. Who wants to stay the victim? Not me.